Nonviolent NZ Communities
Nonviolent NZ Communities
Bringing Authentic and Compassionate Communication to Individuals, Communities and Organisations
Based on the work of Marshall B. Rosenberg and the Centre of Nonviolent Communication and
Daniel Goleman and Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations
Subtle Violence
Subtle Violence
The use of the word ‘Nonviolent’ might imply that there is some sort of violence going on in the way we behave or speak.
The common understanding of violence involves fighting, bullying, beating, yelling, screaming, hurting, the type of things the ‘nice’ people do not do. We believe we are not violent or aggressive and in many ways, we are not.
In a very subtle way and at many times, we are.
By doing what we do out of fear, shame or guilt, we are violent towards self.
When others perceive our requests as demands, they get to do things out of shame, fear or guilt.
When we are criticising self and others, or are suspicious, hateful, greedy, and selfish – all these attitudes result in “expensive” emotions that hurt us and others and do not support our kind intentions.
When we become mindful of how we think and communicate, we change our internal world, our relationships with self and others.
Nonviolence means allowing the compassion within us to emerge and let the mind and our relationship with self and others be guided by authentic love, respect, empathy, understanding, appreciation and concern for SELF and others.
It all starts with understanding of how our mind works, our thinking patterns and how words have an underestimated power that can affect the way we feel, behave and ultimately, our results.
Where to start?
Level 1
NVC Training Programme
People taking this course:
- Become aware of the intention that is behind their choice of words and actions.
- Learn to notice the intentions that are always present as they move through daily life.
- Understand the importance of consciously cultivating the intention to connect.
- Achieve, as a result, better goal attainment, as well as help in habit and behaviour adjustments.
- Cultivate mindfulness, which plays a significant role to their own and organisational well-being enhancement;